Reminder

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I am still here.  I write this as a reminder to myself even more than a notification to my readers.

I have been writing so much these last few months, just not blogging.  I have missed this.

I find myself thinking of this blog often.  I think,

“What do I want to write?”

“What is there to say?”

“Do people really want to hear a housewife’s take on kids and married life?”

“Do I really want to talk about kids and married life?”

“Should I just post works here?  Try to get feedback?”

Lots of questions.  And with full disclosure, I didn’t come to any definitive conclusions.

With the exception of this:  I want to write and I want to write here.

I want to write about whatever I want.  This blog doesn’t need to fit under an umbrella that only touches on certain topics.  It can be all encompassing.   I have no control over who reads, who shares, who cares.  But that isn’t why writing has ever mattered to me.  Writing has been my lifeline since I was a child.  When I was 7 and used writing to help me grapple through my father’s death and throughout my life going through every other hardship and joy.  Writing is home.

So here it goes.  Continuing the act of saving myself.  Using my God-given talent to spend time with myself…and hopefully you all as well.

XOXO

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year…

I cannot believe Christmas is here and that the New Year is right around the corner!  This year, WOW!  Words just cannot describe what this year has meant to me.  Well, actually, I am a writer so I know that words can most definitely describe it.  So they shall, right here.

As many of you read and probably remember from my previous posts, each year I choose a different word as the guide for myself, my focus (inspired by the book One Word– check it out).  In 2016, my word was IMMERSE.  Guys, I did just that!  All year long.

Monday night our brood all went driving to look at Christmas lights.  I was telling my husband I was so sad to see 2016 go -that 2016 was the best year of my life.  He summed it all up perfectly when he said, “Because this year, you finally became you.”  Powerful, right?  And he is so spot on!!  I am finally me!

I immersed myself into my blog and tried to be brave about it.  Tried to be honest about the pains and humble about the satisfactions.  I immersed myself (completely) into the writing, publication and promotion of my book.  Yes, my book.  I am a writer.  Now I live it and don’t just dream it.  I immersed myself into college (FULL TIME) when I went back to school after 20+ years.  I got tired – so damn tired- of telling myself all the things I wish I had done.  I decided to do them.  Lets face it, if I hadn’t, I would be here, a whole year later STILL wishing.  I decided that wishing is for the fainthearted.  I want to be doing!  Immersing!

2016 found me traveling loads.  I went somewhere almost every month – with the exception of when I couldn’t travel because I had a tummy tuck and lipo ( I call that immersing in vanity and you know what, I am okay with that every once in a while)!

January– Disney, Universal, Legoland with our littles- Magical time for sure.

February– Vegas- never been and it was so amazing

March– Hatteras- where I know I will end up someday

April– South Dakota, Minnesota and Iowa on a BOOK TOUR- how sweet is that?

May– Fort Lauderdale to pre-celebrate an amazing friend marrying her amazing guy

          Cabo- with great friends for great memories

          Wilmington to bond with my mom and sisters

June–  Book Tour in PA and MD

July– Tummy tuck time and a brief cameo at a wedding in PA.

August– girlie still down  until college started on the 29th!

September– the Poconos

October– Our Halloween Party

November– back to Cabo with our friends for a Tournament

December– VA for book event and our Christmas party- Oh- and the end of the semester when I was told I made the DEAN’s LIST!

I am in no way bragging, I am just trying to show you all that I was immersed in my life wholeheartedly.  I believe in this, you guys.  I want every person reading this to live.  Really live!  This is not our practice life.  We only have one shot at this.  Why not spend the time we have living colorful, creative, fun and AUTHENTIC lives!?  Please try it.  The world really will be a brighter place when we are all being our colorful selves!

I joked with my sister today that I wanted my word for 2017 to be DITTO so I could just repeat 2016.  I know, I know, that would be kind of cheating.  So I am thinking about my word and will post it shortly.  You all think of yours and let me know what you come up with.  Let 2017 be the year you let the whole world know you are here!

XOXO

When you come upon talent, you SHARE it!

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To say the past few weeks have been a whirlwind is a bit of an understatement.  I had my very first Book Signing at Ukazoo Bookstore in Towson.  It is an adorable, trendy little bookstore that is now carrying No Cheese Please on their shelves!  I am quite excited about that, as you can imagine.

For the signing, I had commissioned a super-talented artist I know and love, John Kurcheski from Kurcheski Designs to help bring Nick to life.  Boy did he ever!  Check out this video John made showing how he helped Nick come ALIVE!  This costume was phenomenal and I am always ever amazed at the workmanship and talent John has.  Want some one-of-a-kind art?  Want something that will blow your mind?  Get in touch with John at Kurcheski Designs on Facebook or follow him on Instagram Kurcheski Designs.

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People have been so impressed with this commissioned costume, I simply had to share it with you all!

 

*Sidebar note*

This Friday will be the first No Cheese Please In The Wild Prize Giveaway!

I will be posting all the pictures here on the blog and on FB and IG.  Anyone can vote for their favorite!  The winner will receive the first prize package!

Keep on sending in those pictures and if you haven’t already, Get to Amazon to buy NO CHEESE PLEASE!!!

 

The Bucket List…

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I came across this book today.  In it lies the bucket list of my daughter, Studious.  We had asked her to start this a few years ago as a way for her to set her dreams to the max and as a method to keep track of her successful accomplishments.

She has in it various places to see in the world.  She has in this a variety of tasks that she wishes to complete.  Daring things, clever things, thoughtful and fun things.  Some things on her list have since been checked off.  Others remain.

I wanted this book to serve as a compass for her.  A compass to setting goals and meeting them.  A way to broaden her horizons.  To see her life for the great and glorious blank canvas for which it is and to inspire her to paint vibrant life-experiences onto it.

Tonight, I realize how fortunate I am to have her and this book of future dreams and aspirations.  I am blessed beyond compare that my children have the ability to dream and become whatever it is they wish to become.  So immeasurably blessed that my children can look out into the world and decide what parts of it’s magnificence they wish to join.

Of course, I would be remiss if I didn’t draw to mind all the parents I have known or heard of who don’t have their children any longer.  How finding a book of these unaccomplished dreams would likely paralyze them with grief and sorrow.  How blessed I am indeed.

I have seen the exact moment each of my children have entered this world.  I pray that none of them ever make decisions which will force me to see them exit it.   That would be against nature and unbearable.

Finding this book today was a pot of gold.  It is proof that there are things yet to be done.  Memories and fun still in store.  Love to be had.

Here’s to the bucket lists of this world!